“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.” Elder Uchtdorf
You are a creator.
If you make art, or music, or movies, or fancy food then you are probably nodding your head right now.
If you’ve never done something like this in your life, you might be thinking I’m nuts.
It’s true, though. You are a creator. Even if you would never describe yourself as “creative,” you are.
If you get up every morning, live your life, and get back into bed at night, you are a creator.
During that period between waking up and going to bed you are fully engaged in creating. Some of the creating results in artwork, music, or fabulous dinner. Some of that creating results in work (or school) reports, paid bills, or completed laundry. Other creating brings about relationships, memories, or experiences. There is even creating that results in arguments, breakups, or hurt. For better or worse, you create all day long.
Every moment you get to create your life. Every moment you get to create the kind of person you want to be. Every moment you create a day that is different than yesterday.
You decide what to do, how to dress, what to eat, who you talk to (and how you talk to them), what you listen to, what you buy, what you throw out, and much more. Every day is filled with a million tiny decisions that slowly but surely unfold into who you are and what you do.
Even if you are someone who feels constrained by the expectations of jobs, kids, schedules, responsibilities, and an endless to-do list, you still have plenty of opportunities to exert your creative power on the day. You can turn on fun music as you do chores, or sing out your frustration in the shower, or even use a robot voice to tell your kids to pack up for school. You also have the choice to say no to some of those expectations as well. Conforming to all of them is a choice, and part of your creation.
You are a creator. You create your life moment by moment, choice by choice all day every day.
No, I’m not going to start telling you that you can create the life of your dreams just by thinking positive thoughts and “attracting” it to you. I am telling you that you’ll never create the life of your dreams if you don’t start making decisions today that create a life in which those dreams are a possibility. You’ll never become the person you want to be if you spend your day making the same choices you did yesterday.
No one baked a cake without getting the ingredients first or learning how to turn on the oven.
You create your life through a million tiny decisions. You wake up every morning and have endless opportunities to act more like the person you want to become. To create a today that is slightly different from yesterday. Even if you change one tiny thing every day of your life, by the end of the year you’ve made 365 choices to create something new. The small stuff begets big stuff.
“The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself.” Deepak Chopra
So who do you want to be? What kind of life do you want? Have you thought about it? Do you know where you are headed? If not, that’s your first step. Spend some time dreaming of where you want to go and who you want to be. Then you can start to make those tiny decisions every day to create that outcome. Even if you don’t have all the details, mark some guideposts to help you get started.
The best way to create change is to start with your thoughts. Thoughts have energy. What runs through your mind during the day has force that will either help or hinder your creating power.
Taking a walk downstream is much easier than slogging upstream. Let energy in your life that flows in the direction you want to go.
Here are some things that you will want to evaluate in your life to see how their energy helps or hurts you:
Judgements: These are ways we label people or things as “safe” or “scary.” The problem is that the more you label things “scary,” the more you limit your ability to change. Why? As you continually put “scary” labels on people and things you increasingly see yourself in a dangerous world. This creates a lot of fear. Fear is constricting. Fear does not like change. Fear does not see a tomorrow that is better than today. So, watch your judgements. Start becoming the kind of person who sees more “safe” than “scary.” That’s the kind of person more likely to create the life they want because they aren’t constrained by fear of the world.
Media: Things like the national news, your Facebook or Twitter feeds, email subscriptions, phone alerts, message boards, television/movie watching, and MUCH more create a lot of energy in your life. Nearly every moment of your day your computer, phone, radio, iPad, or watch is sending energy messages your way. People say horrible and insane things all the time online. The more you read that, the more you think it is OK. If you don’t want to be that kind of person, then you need to stop consuming that kind of conversation. Also, the news capitalizes on all kinds of fear. If you don’t want to create a worldview that assumes everything is unsafe (see above), then choose to limit those fear-based messages. It only takes a second to evaluate the energy coming in and make a decision to drop the stuff flowing against the current of your life.
People: There are a lot of tough people to deal with these days. Make good choices of who you hang out with, online and off. Even good people can get into negative conversations. Make decisions every day to interact with the type of people who represent who you want to be. Make friends with people who have lives similar to what you want to create. Hanging out with uplifting people will make creating the life you want easier. Hanging out with critical, fear-based people will make it hard to break away.
Self-talk: Most of us are our own worst critics. It’s really hard, maybe impossible, to create the life you want when you're constantly beating yourself up for real or imagined mistakes. Donald Altman writes in his book Clearing Emotional Clutter, “If you tell yourself something long enough, you might end up believing it, even if it has no basis in the truth.” Start noticing how you talk to yourself. Are you saying things that conflict with the person you are trying to be or the life you are trying to create? If so, the dialog in your mind will always win. Start creating an internal environment that nurtures the person you want to become. Then you will be free to create something new that runs in sync with your mind and your dreams.
Does all this sound overwhelming? It’s not. Remember, your day is full of a million tiny decisions in which you create the person you are becoming and the life you want. Start by noticing the judgements, media, people, and self-talk that full your life. Once you notice things, make tiny decisions to remove them from your life. Don’t watch two hours of news. Unsubscribe from that email list. Unfollow that Twitter personality. One choice at a time, you’ll see change start to happen.
The most important thing you need to do to change your life is create joy every day. Yes, your wonderful creator power can create joy! No matter how crazy, or depressing, or overwhelming your life is, start to find ways to bring joy into your life. Maybe start small. Wear a color that makes you smile. Look at pictures of people you love. Throw out those old nicknacks you hate. Or maybe you want to go big. Plan a trip. Take a day off. Buy a new paint set. Stay in your PJs all day and read a book. It doesn’t matter what it is or how extravagant, do things every day that bring you joy. This is the energy that will create the person you want to be and the life you want to live. Use the PDF document at the end of this blog post to help you brainstorm things that bring you joy: We Need You.
The best part is, as you bring more joy into your life, the easier it will be to see the things that kill your joy. You’ll be better able to edit out the judgements, media, people, and self-talk that are holding you back. Joy is the key to a tomorrow that is different than today. Joy changes you from the person you are now to the person you want to be in the future. If there is only one moment of each day that you have the power to create that way you want, make sure it is one that creates joy.
You still have the rest of the day to be a creator. What will you create with the time you have left?